Is being gay less of a sin than pretending to be straight?


i know being gay is wrong but someone is arguing with me, a FELLOW CHRISTIAN.

If a man knows and believes in God and that being gay is wrong, and he CHOOSES to not be gay anymore to DEVOTE his life to God, then is that alright? Because God just wants us to love him….

God looks on the heart or the attitude and intent. If someone receives God’s call and is gay, God will convict that person over time that there is a need to change his or her lifestyle to be compatible with how God created him or her as heterosexual. You are correct in that the person decides to change and devote his life to God and therefore God sees him or her as a new creation purged from that sin. Your friend is also correct in saying that God calls practicing a same sex lifestyle bad or an abomination. If I understand correctly, your friend is saying that he takes it upon himself to reveal God’s truth to the homosexual and therefore God holds the homosexual accountable. That’s not totally right because God knows what we need when. If your friend were following the prompting and leading of God the Holy Spirit in doing so that’s one thing. If you friend does this on his own decision and power, that’s quite another.

Overcoming is a process and takes time. God knows when the time is to convict us of ways of living that are not compatible with His. (That’s what sin is all about) He will then empower us to make the changes we need to make. Overcoming wrong sexual choice and behavior is, in principle, no different from overcoming stealing, lying or drug or alcohol addiction.

If you pretend to be straight aren’t you still gay? I would day yeas and this question is now. “Is being gay less of a sin than being gay.” Beside who would one pretend to be straight? Randomly comment on how the other gender is attractive and attempt to sleep with them? I mean the only difference in being gay and being straight is who you are attracted to. Oh and you can not marry the love of your life if you are gay but that is a discussion for another day.

Being gay is fine, gay sex is fine and you can not make the choice not to be gay. I assume you actually know the latter of those 3 statement as you clearly say “Pretend” to be straight not “Choose” to be straight. Perhaps you will come to accept the other 2 as well.

You have misinterpreted your friend. The truth as you know it is, as you said, being gay is wrong.
That man chooses not to be gay anymore to devote his life to God is fine; God wants us to love Him.

But the question is, Is God real to you? If not, something is missing and it would be well for you to come to Jesus to humbly ask for help to save you from your inner conflict. Our sins caused the Son of God to come in the flesh to die on the cross to redeem us and reconcile us with God the Father. He is offering you an invitation to a new life; if you would admit that you are a sinner in His sight and your sins grieve God’s heart. Ask forgiveness and claim His promise “…whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.” The next thing you should do is read the gospel of John to know God’s will better.

Are you choosing to be straight (i.e., actively pursuing sex with women)? Or are you choosing to abstain from sex entirely, because the practice is wrong?

No one in their spiritually right mind will ever tell you that “being gay” is wrong, only the act itself. There’s no need, in that case, to go on pretending that you’re straight. Be open about your sexual attraction, and equally open about your decision to remain celibate. I was told once that God doesn’t give us challenges we can’t handle, or temptations we can’t resist.

On the other hand, if you pretend you don’t have these desires, then you’ll miss out on any support you might be given in the meantime. This, and you’ll constantly be at war with yourself – which is a battle you can only lose.

Be gay, celibate, and proudly christian about both — it’s an opportunity to help other christians as well, who can learn from your experience, whichever way it may end.

Being the way god made you is not wrong. Gay is not a choice, it is a natural state of being the person can no nothing about. Choosing to devote one’s life to god is one thing, but choosing not to be gay is a lie, and will no doubt seriously alter the emotional and physical health of the pretender, no matter how much they believe in god.

The scripture says:
`If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood [shall be] upon them.
KJV Leviticus 20:13

If {there is} a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltiness is upon them.
New American Standard Version Leviticus 20:13

And if a man has sex relations with a man, the two of them have done a disgusting thing: let them be put to death; their blood will be on them.
– Darby Bible

We have many thoughts come to our mind, the devil makes sure of that, but it’s when we entertain those thoughts or when we act upon those thoughts they become sin. If you are a Christian, that means Christ like, you will believe the Word of God and do your best to live by His Word. He will convict you of all sin, you will know what is sin.

Being gay, at least as your argument goes, is a sin that can be repented of.
Acting straight when you are still gay is like living a lie.
(as though one knows the truth, but rejects it to save face.)

There is hope for both…. Jesus Christ can forgive.

You need to do what you feel is right in accordance with your beliefs. As an atheist, I wholly support your homosexuality; however, if you do not feel comfortable being gay, then you will never be completely satisfied with your life. I am truly sorry that you are stuck in this dilemma.

well most people say sin starts in the heart…but look…this is your life…do what you want. noone is perfect. being gay is not bad. it is your preference…I believe some are born that way and it is not a light switch you can turn on and off.

The Christian stand point:

Any unmarried persons are to abstain from sex until married in the Church. Whether straight or gay.

From the Catechism

Chastity and homosexuality…

2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity,140 tradition has always declared that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.”141 They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.

2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. They do not choose their homosexual condition; for most of them it is a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.

2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.

“There are not more than 100 people in the world who truly hate the Catholic Church, but there are millions who hate what they perceive to be the Catholic Church. ….As a matter of fact, if we Catholics believed all of the untruths and lies which were said against the Church, we probably would hate the Church a thousand times more than they do.”

—–Archbishop Sheen…

Peace be with you

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