I’m a confused teenager?
So I’m 13 about to be 14 and I’m confused with my sexuality I’m pretty sure I’m not gay cause I’m really attracted to girls and I have big feeling for them and emotion by the way I’m a guy. But I’m attracted to guys but I don’t want any type of…
You’re young and you’ve got plenty of time to figure things out. I think it’s more important to figure out what you think of gay people first. think about how you’d feel about a gay friend. If a friend or family memember came out to you, would you be still love them the same? If not is that ok?
By figuring out how you feel about other people being gay, you’ll figure out if it’s okay for you to be gay or not.
It is possible that you could be bi-sexual. However at your age it is not all that uncommon to be confused about your sexuality. Most people are not aware that the human brain is still in the process of physical growth during the early teens up to about 18 to 20 years of age. For some teens your age this brain growth process can be the basis of your confusion. Many parents do not realize that they may be partially responsible for this confusion as well. For now I would say give yourself a break and see what the next year brings for you. If you find yourself still sexually attracted to guys it is something your will eventually have to deal with………or not, depending on your situation with your parents. The world you are growing up in is far more complex and difficult to deal with than when I was your age. So take some time before you make and decision that may affect the rest of your life.
Far more people than would admit have this problem in adolescence. This period can be very confusing as it is a period of many emotional and psychological changes, as well as the obvious physical ones.
The thing is to focus on other things at the moment: your studies, music, sport, friends, family, etc., and see how things pan out when it comes to sex and stuff. Whatever you do, don’t allow yourself to be pigeon holed by anyone (including yourself) for some years to come. An enjoy your teens!
So it could be that you’re bisexual. Which is fine! Why not try watching gay and straight porn and see what turns you on the most. Or you could try watching a threesome and see which one you have your eye on the most! Try getting with a girl and if it doesn’t feel right-break up and get with a lad(if you don’t want people to know, get with a boy outside of school. If this doesn’t help, talk to a friend or teacher! xxxx
Sounds like you’re leaning towards being bisexual, in my opinion. You’re probably better off not telling your family until you’re old enough to be out on your own.
There’s nothing wrong with admiring other guys. You sound pretty sure that you prefer girls.