I met this guy on vacation two weeks ago, we hung out, and he asked for my number. We’ve spoken via text or calls everyday since then. We were getting on really well, and even mentioned a possible trip to one another in the future. He had said that he really likes me and he can’t stop thinking of me, but…
Let me get this straight, you slept with a guy that was in a committed relationship. Now you are considering getting into a committed relationship with this same guy that does not value committed relationships. Exactly what makes you think he will be faithful to you.
You are the reason that guys cheat. There is always a gullible woman to bed and believes the lies. Also, be prepared for a life of being cheated on.
If he truly has broken up with her and is telling you the real truth, you are doing nothing wrong staying in touch, and I know you have thought about all the if’s and buts, but there are a couple of points I would like to make in an effort to give you a little more guidance.
1. I wonder did he use you as the excuse to finish with her (well that is OK), but remember no matter that he felt things had gone stale between them, don’t open up too much of your heart, for he may well be on the rebound. They shared lots of things apart from the years they spent together, what with being a living in couple, and chances are there are one hell of a lot of baggage that will still be going on.
2. I think the main thing I would suggest to someone in your situation, is that its early days, you both enjoyed each others company but there is that 9 hour gap between you. He is basically saying that he is or has fallen for you, so let him do the running – meaning let him make the 9 hour trip to you first. It will prove that he is sincere.
Your a young woman of 26, and thankfully old enough and wise enough to know that probably you don’t know the full story, so guard yourself again big heartache at the moment, for you honestly don’t know if he is telling you the full truth. If he comes down to see you, ask him questions about the relationship, he probably will only want to say so much, but ask him for details of what went wrong between them, did they seek counseling, or do anything to try and reconcile. I say this not meaning be nosy, but if you ask and keep on about things – if he has to stop to think to make something up, then you will know he is not being fully truthful.
For example you ask ” did you both try and sort things out” a quick yes will probably come to that question, but badger him more ” what did you do, did you seek counseling”, just keep on asking one thing after another, if he is genuinely being truthful with you, he will be able to give you quick straight answers, and at the end of the day, you will learn a little more about his actual character. You will also be getting across that long term relationships are a serious thing when they end, and that your not a girl that takes relationships lightly – I know it sounds mean, but make him prove his worth – you don’t want to be on his rebound, and you want the guy to know that your a serious girl if you go into a full relationship with him. I just don’t want to see you get hurt, as no doubt do you either, and not being horrible guys can be damn good liars when it suits them for their own reasons.
If all works out well for you then honestly I wish you both the best of luck, your not a couple of kids, your a decent age when you fully know what commitments etc are meant to mean.
Hope my words help.
WOW, feel like I just read wikipedia, ok anyway my point of view: You mention you hate cheating, obviously he has no problem with cheating, who’s to say he won’t do it on you in the future? I think your distance may ruin the relationship aswell, maybe you should ask him to move or you could move if your really serious about him. You could just keep up the calling and texting and see how it goes of course, but this guy doesn’t seem very nice. Well just my opinion good luck =)
I believed that you really need to move on, forget him, DOUBT is not good in a relationship, TRUST is important. If he was afraid to tell you the truth before, well i think he can do it to you once more. I know that we can’t judge him easily but the distance between you and him will probably one of the cause that make your relationship suffer.
Try to think million times…. Can he make u happy even ur far away from him, if u have doubts on him?
Your question is not a question but a deciciosn that you are unable to make.
I suggest u dont be a home breaker.
If this guy doenst hold to a relationship at 32,he wont hold it further dowm
He gets bored after sex,n marriage.
He is not contributing to his amrriage now,how wud he contri later?
Dont be a home breaker.Call up & talk to his wifey.She will trow much lite oon this man.
See,I faced such problems,but i didnt divorce my wife.I care for life n feelings to an extenet that I have to keep up a relationship..thats a committment.every relationship has ups n downs..that doesnt mean that anyman can dump his wife!!!if he does,he is a coward & he doent know HR management.he is rotting run away from him.if you wud like to chat wid me..im me at lusty4fem @ yahoo msnger.
Like Dr. Phil says, past behavior is indicative of future behavior. In other words, if he’ll fool around on his girlfriend, he’ll do it to you too. You can’t trust this guy no matter how much you like him. And you only have his side of the story. How do you know he told his girlfriend? What if she found out about you and dumped him? If you decide to pursue this, and you’ve rationalized it to the point you will regardless of what strangers think, just be careful and keep in mind–HE LIES! Good luck.
You’re not even together and he’s already cheating on you!? Dump that sad sack and move on, there are plenty of good men out there who deserve a chance. No reason to wait around for someone who has already proven himself to be a scuzzball. He’s having a hard time? Well boo hoo hoo. You need to consider your own feelings above his.
well dear it,s like this. what he did and what you did before both of you met has nothing to do with anything now. he,s probably upset because he might be thinking it will happen again with you and him and he can,t stand 2 break-ups. it works on a person when there is a break-up because you get to thinking your no good for anyone.
THE FACTS ARE ALL THERE AND DEEP DOWN YOU REFUSE TO FACE IT HOPING WERE YOU KNOW HOPE CAN’T BE FOUND HE IS A LIRE A CHEAT AND MAY STILL BE PLAYING YOU IF YOU WANT TO GO FORWARD WITH THIS ITS YOUR CHOICE BUT YOU SHOULD TALK AND APOLOGIES TO HER SURE SHE WILL BE MAD IF SHE KNOWS BUT THE HURT WILL SHOW YOU HOW BAD HE PLAYED HER AND WHAT A RELATIONSHIP COULD HOLD FOR YOU PUT DOWN THE ROSE COLORED GLASSES AND STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR HIM AND SEE THE WORLD FOR WHAT IT IS IT IS MY DEAREST HOPE THAT YOU MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE THAT IS WORTHY OF YOU AND YOU WILL NOT SETTLE FOR BAD USED PROBLEM CHILD.
have sex with him alot