Do you honestly think that when a muslim woman dress modestly, is because she is controled by men?


From the answers i got from my previous question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtQUDGeg1pV5nXMhReyEUzzsy6IX?qid=20070708061402AAJlW12

i honestly realized the huge ignorant toward our faith. what’s funny i have witness a woman who insist and told her husband she will not take her veil off,…

I think its hilarious that some people automatically think Muslim women are being oppressed because they dress modestly. It is astounding that some of these same people who criticize the modest dress of Muslim women can then think that they are “free” from oppression as they walk around in mini skirts or with cleavage hanging out of their tops as though it is a “liberating” thing! Why do these women who wear revealing clothing wear what they do? Is it really to “feel pretty” or because they are “free” or is it because society teaches them that women are objects and that their value is tied into their bodies…. why would any self-respecting woman want to walk around with their t&a hanging out? Just think, isn’t it possible that we are in fact being oppressed by this standard that we are told makes us FREE? So why is it something “bad” if a woman (Muslim or not) respects herself enough to know that her body is not the most important marker of who she is, and that she doesn’t need to show her skin to everyone in order to be a valuable member of the society!

No, I don’t think there is anything wrong with Muslim women dressing modestly, or anyone dressing modestly for that matter. I believe it is a lost art in this society.

I also don’t see a problem with their veils for their hair.

I do have a problem when they are forced to cover their entire body except for a small slit so that they can see. That I do believe is wrong.

I am also aware that they can chose, with some limitations granted, to wear the clothes that they want. To select the colors and styles. I know of some websites that cater to Muslim women and their products are actually quite beautiful

The requirement that a woman wear a niqb is a manifestation of the feelings of inadequecy that most islamic cultures instill in their men. In the West–a relationship is based on mutual trust and respect between equals. A man doesn’t have to be concerned that another man likes the way his wife looks–because he knows that at the end of the day his wife is getting into his bed. It actually empowers western men as one can think “look all you want brother–but she loves me–and will be in my bed tonight while you sleep alone”. I think the islamics are scared that if their women were given a choice–they might find someone else or some other culture more to their liking–leaving the poor shmuck alone. Pretty much in my travels around the world–thats what I’ve come to believe.

SALAAMZ ALL!!!Heres a poem to some up my hijabi sisters…What do you see when you look at me?
Do you see someone limited, or someone free?
All some people can do is just look and stare,
Simply because they can’t see my hair,
Others think I am controlled and uneducated, They are so thankful that they are not me,
Because they would like to remain ?free?,
Well free isn?t exactly the word I would?ve used,
Describing women who are cheated on and abused,
They think that I do not have opinions or voice,
They think that being hooded isn?t my choice,
They think that the hood makes me look caged,
That my husband or dad is totally outraged,
All they can do is look at me in fear,
And in my eye there is a tear, Not because I have been stared at or made fun of,
But because people are ignoring the One up above,
On the Day of Judgment they will be the fools,
Because they were too ashamed to play by their own rules, Maybe the guys won?t think I am a cutie, But at least I am filled with more inner beauty,
See I have declined from being a guy?s toy,
Because I won?t let my self be controlled by a boy,
Real men are able to appreciate my mind, And aren?t busy looking at my behind, Hooded girls are the ones really helping the Muslim cause, The role that we play definitely deserves applause,
I will be recognized because I am smart and bright,
And because some people are inspired by my sight, The smart ones are attracted by my tranquility, In the back of their mind they wish they were me,
We have the strength to do what we think is right, Even if it means putting up a life long fight,
You see we are not controlled by a mini skirt and tight shirt,
We are given only respect, and never treated like dirt,
So you see, we are the ones that are free and liberated,
We are not the ones that are sexually terrorized and violated,
We are the ones that are free and pure,
We?re free of standard?s that have no cure,
So when people ask you how you feel about the hood,
Just sum it up by saying ?baby its all good?.
Take care all…

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noncrazed:

when you said
“I do have a problem when they are forced to cover their entire body except for a small slit so that they can see. That I do believe is wrong.”

That “slit” is merely culture. Nowhere in Islam does it say to cover every part of the body , with the exception of sight. When you see this, this is the tradition of that country or region, and not necessarily Islamic. In fact, most Muslim women who cover (concerning the head and face) only cover their hair, as that is what is required, not the face. You probably saw images of these women dressed in all black, fully covered, on TV. That doesn’t mean it is part of the religion, and the Media ALWAYS reports misleading information, ESPECIALLY about Islam these days.

So, as for you thinking it a bit extreme, do not associate it with Islam, as the Media loves to do, but instead consider the culture and region in which this practice takes place.

PS: Kinova, very well said, I enjoyed reading that 🙂

If you ask a question and you get responses that you do not agree with, consider the source. Maybe these people just do not know the correct answer so you have an opportunity to enlighten someone. I believe that some women dress modestly for the sake of their religion while others dress according to their husband’s wishes, for the sake of religion.

No, this is not true.
Modesty comes from inside and it has nothing to do with what some one tells you to do or not to do. Those women who dress modestly , whether Muslim or non-Muslim do so in order to be modest, and controlling has nothing to do with it.There are lot of things that a non-Muslim does not comprehend and have led to much misconception about Muslims.
In any society the modesty of women is determined by the women themselves.

I have to admit I’m a little confused. I am engaged to a Muslim and going to Morocco this year to marry him. We have talked about me wearing a hijab and I told him I would wear it out of respect for him. I have never felt the women were oppressed, but I did think they wore the hijab in order to be modest and respectful(especially if married), but not for religious purposes. My fiance knows I am not Muslim and that my Christian beliefs do not require I cover my head. He sent me video once of a Moroccan wedding and one of the women and her daughter were not wearing the hijab and when I asked him why he said he guessed the husband must not mind that they not wear them. This gives the impression that the hijab is worn to show respect for her husband and she is only allowed to not wear it if agrees. I thought women wear the hijab and jelaba to show modesty, but you(and some of the Muslim women who have answered) are saying it is a sign of love and devotion to God. Why? God knows a woman has hair. If she does not wear the hijab at home or when she sleeps, then when she removes it God sees her hair, so how is this showing love for God. Anyone reading this please feel free to email me and enlighten me please.

Unfortunately quite a few people think that muslim women dress modestly because they are “forced” by their religon or men or because they are “opresssed”. Even though this might be true in a small minority of cases , dont you think that many of these women actually do want to dress as they do?
Come on think of it this way that they dress as they do because that this the way they want to, now doesnt everyone agree that everyone has the right to dress as they please? So why nag on about how muslim women want to dress, its their choice stop trying to make it for them…..

I don’t wear the veil to cover my face, but I do wear the headscarf and I dress modestly. I am an American convert. I am unmarried, so no one can say that I have a husband “ordering” me to do anything. I choose to cover because it is a sign of my devotion to Allah. I love that when someone encounters me they have to judge me on my character and my intellect rather than the shape of my body. And occasionally, I get the opportunity to share with a stranger who asks about my religion the beauty of Islam.

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