How do I talk to my 10 year old son about masturbation?

My son recently watched Return of the Jedi and asked me for some Star Wars posters. We got him a few but he insisted on one Leia poster, with her posing in the slave outfit. We got him that as well and he has put it in his room. I’m pretty sure he masturbates to Leia, which I’m fine with. I know it’s…

What makes you think he masterbates this way?

You do realize people move around in their sleep.
He probably didn’t start off like that!

btw, get his dad to talk to him about it.
It might be embarrassing to talk about it, but it’ll be A LOT worse if his mum is trying to talk to him about something so private.
It’s a male thing.

I understand that you’re an adult……but your son won’t see it like that.
Get your husband to do it…….or at least a male relative!

There is nothing wrong with that poster if he likes it.

As to the traumatic masturbation thing, that theory is unproven and may be false, look here:…

If he is ten, he needs to know what sex is and what masturbation is, in terms he can understand at his age, and he needs to hear it from his parents (and at school) rather than in the street. You do not have to show him how to do it, he’ll find that out all by himself.
If you are going to tell him, leave that Leia poster out of it completely or he’ll be ashamed of his poster and take it down… it’s enough to say that some men like to look at pictures of beautiful women (or men, for that matter).

It’s a sensitive subject. I didn’t have the birds and the bees talk from my parents. I just discovered my own body by myself.

Personally, I think it may be best if you just leave it because it’s a private thing but definitely have your husband have a talk to him about safe sex and/or bodily functions… In that region. I doubt he is masturbating on his stomach.

And no, the poster is not inappropriate in my opinion.

If you’re his mother, avoid the subject like the plague. If you’re his father, you drew the short straw on this one so good f***ing luck.

In all seriousness, though, I think what you should do is just make sure your son knows he can talk to you about anything without fear of being judged, ridiculed or punished, and that everything stays absolutely confidential. Sit down and have a talk to him about puberty, sex, and anything else he wants to talk about. It’s going to be awkward, just embrace it. Throw in some jokes, just relax, make it casual, and you should be fine.

there’s nothing wrong with having a poster of her on his wall my sister haves a poster of devon werkheiser on her wall and she’s 10 years old too btw kids do move around in their sleep because when i was 10 i use to go to sleep on my side but then wake up on my belly and i dont think you should talk to him about that until he’s 12 he’ll understand more then and in 4th grade they talk about that stuff and in 5th they do to well atleast at my school they did


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