Ok. I want everyones opinion. My husband and I have had 4 baby names picked out for our children for 2 years. 2 boy names and 2 girl names. The whole family knows what our names are! Well….. Our cousin was pregnant with a boy and told us what she was going to name him but months later decided she wasn’t sure…
It’s not ridiculous at all. You’ve been betrayed by someone you love and trust, it’s understandable that you’re angry. I would feel exactly the same if I were in your shoes!
But there’s nothing you can do about this unfortunate situation, so the best thing you can do is move on having learned a very important lesson: Don’t share your baby names with other people! You’ve learned that the hard way, and I’m sure you won’t make the same mistake again.
Good luck – I hope you find the perfect names for your future children 🙂
People are touchy about this kind of stuff. My aunt “stole” the name that was supposed to be mine for my cousin and it is still an issue. This happened over 30 years ago and my mom still brings it up whenever the subject of baby names comes up. It’s okay that it bothers you, I think that’s normal. But, be careful about taking that and turning it into “they take advantage of everything we do for them”. That’s overkill in my opinion. Regardless of being hurt about having your name stollen you need to decide how much you are going to let this damage your family. Personally I don’t think it’s worth holding a grudge over. What’s done is done, enjoy your nephew and try not to hang onto too much bitterness because you will be the one who suffers most. Next time you come up with a great baby name keep it between you and your husband.
I can understand how you feel but unfortunately there’s nothing you can do about it. I would just not let them know or think it bothers you. In fact, you might feel flattered in a way that they chose something you liked. Maybe they honor your opinion.
In terms of names you might just change your favorite names between now and when you have your baby (are you even pregnant?) because that happened to me. I was so in love with the name Elizabeth for years and years. A family member used it for their kids name so I don’t really want to use it for my baby anymore so I picked another that I love.
Well then stop doing so much for them. They obviously took something from you that was special and for me that would be all the reason not to associate with them or be there for them again.
All you can do now is pick new names and don’t tell anyone. You are better to use a name that isn’t on your list of favorites so you can say the name is “yours” and you didn’t “steal” it from anyone.
I’m sorry this happened to you, but take it as a lesson learned that people are human and no matter how well you think you know them, you never truely know what they’re capapable of until you’re locked in a room with them.
I would let them know that it hurt you but I would also still use the name when you have your son. They will not spend their lives side by side. So no one will really know that he has a cousin with the same name, you know? Your son will be his own person and if that is the name you chose specifically for him, then I don’t think it would be fair for HIS name to be replaced by something less special.
PS: My dad and his cousin have the same first and last name. My dad told me that and told me never to not use a name for my baby that I love just because someone has already used it.
That was selfish of her to do that.. and yea it is just a name but it was a special name that you and your husband picked out so no you are not ridiculous for feeling this way i would feel like that too. but there are tons and tons of names you can pick…btw what was the name??
and good luck…
cut off all contact with them and when you do have a baby name it with the name they stole btw what was the name?
I can understand how you both feel perhaps you should choose new names & don’t tell anyone
I would be ticked if they knew that was your name and were all secretive about it like that.
keep your names secretive.
that does suck though