All right, so I’m going to try to make this as short as possible.
I have friends, I have a life, but none of my friends seem to understand how I feel. I used to cut (I haven’t done it in six months) but I just want somebody who “gets it,” you know? I mean, I love my friends, and they listen,…
You need to learn how to pick people you can share information with. There are some things in my past I would share with nobody, not even my husband, except only one or two friends. After a while, you will be able to ‘sense’ who you can share intimate stuff with, and who you can’t. I think that’s a sad fact of life, most friends are fairly superficial.
Also, I think you have a bit of a victim mentality and need to shake that off and be more assertive. A victim mentality will drag a person down very quickly. If your family says something to hurt you, tell them. You don’t have to start a fight with them, but tell them you are offended by what they said. The same applies with people at school. The more you take charge, the more confident you will feel, and the more happier you will be.
You have to be you and your family has to accept that you have your own identity. They seem to have you in a role and put you in a peg hole. That’s never fair to pigeonhole someone. It was done to me and honey, it will end when you are on your own. Hang in there. Don’t let them get you down. Concentrate on doing well in school and what you want to be in life. You can pick your friends, but you can’t pick your family. You sound like me when I was young. Tell your friends to lay off on the boyfriend thing and to mind their own business. Start standing up for yourself with your friends. Your real friends will respect you and the ones that don’t can get lost.
I basically tuned out my family when they picked on me. I found if I reacted, they wanted that. They wanted drama and a fight or at least my mother did. I avoid her to this day. You sound like you have your head on straight and realize parents aren’t perfect and some families are dysfunctional. Try to keep a sense of humor about it all and one day you will be on your own and you don’t owe them anything. One day you’ll be whatever you want to be and dress however you want to. When you support yourself, you can then tell them all to stuff it and get a life. It’s a rough time in life for you.
Have you thought about talking to your school counselor or a therapist at school? Maybe they can help you cope. It’s not worth fighting with family, however, you can stop the victim mentality and tell them they hurt you with their words. Little by little, stand up for yourself. You don’t have to fight. Tune them out if you must, but pick better friends if you have to.
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