How do you prepare yourself for the death of a loved one?
Over the last 4 years, I have lost my father, sister, sister-in-law, and now my brother has been diagnosed with liver cancer. I am feeling like I am losing my mind over this.
My question is… with only “months” for him to live, how can I…
Jesus heals the broken hearted and while you are feeling low about your brother’s condition has anyone who believes in divine healing come to pray for him? Because while my Mom did not have liver cancer she had some terrible life threatening problems that said she was going to die in 6 hrs and God healed her using the doctors that were on the case. There is alway hope in the midst of the storm. We are to do all we can do in the natural then God does His part.
My Mom was 83 when she had to be rushed to the hospital and the doctors told us she needed to have immediate surgery. They said she has gangrene in her intestines and her pancreas had died and they needed to remove it.
I was praying for her all the way to the hospital because I knew that God heals. I called my sisters and they all but two believed in healing.
We called our friends who believed that God could and would heal her to pray and we called our church to pray because they believe in divine healing. So many believers praying for God to save my Mom and do not let her die.
The surgery took some time and after 3 hours they came out and told us that they had suctioned out all the gangrene and when they went in to take out the dead pancreas they found to their surprise that the pancreas was not dead but had started to rejuvenate itself.
They could not believe it. She was healed and came home and lived 10 yrs. longer.
We need to put our trust in the Lord for all things.
I do not know how others work thorough these things without God. He knows how to comfort us. He knows what we need before we ask.
I pray that God will give you that one word or scripture that will give you peace and that your heart will be encouraged and your hope restored.
I am believing for a healing and God’s will in this situation.
God bless you
There is and excellent book titled “Graceful Passages” it is used a lot in hospices and it has a lot of spiritual insights from lots of different faiths. When I worked in a hospice with people who were dying what I often found was that the person who was dying had accepted their death much more than the loved ones who came to visit, and this often would depress the person who was dying much more than their own death.
You probably know something about the stages of grief; but if you do not there is a link at the bottom of this post that will acquaint you with them as put forth by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, a pioneer in working with those who are dying; the thing is these stages do not go in any order, but they can be useful in helping to recognize what you, your mom, and others may be going thru. Look at both of the links at the bottom of this post for some resources that I hope will be of use to you. When working in a hospice mostly what we did was help a person die gracefully.
Here is a verse from the book I mentioned; Graceful Passages:
LETTING YOURSELF BE LOVED,
No one has ever prepared us for this experience,
We think it’s the end – no,
It’s another beginning.
It’s knowing that you are loved,
It’s not easy, letting yourself be loved,
Because we’ve learned to judge ourselves,
We’re always judging ourselves.
But I’ve learned to listen that I was loved. I am loved!
But then I would forget that I was loved.
Those were the most painful times for me…
Forgetting that I was loved.
So you’ve let yourself be loved while you’ve been here.
And you’ve judged yourself.
And you’ve forgotten that you were loved,
And you became alone…but you will always be here.
You are blessed, you are forgiven, you are an angel.
You have to listen that you are loved and you have to forgive all the time.
Thank you for letting me love you, thank you for letting yourself be loved.
God bless you.
I don’t have answers for things like this. I just know that in hard times the Lord wants us to hold on to Him like never before. When I’m depressed I read Psalm 116 and Psalm 139:11-12. I will add you to my prayer list, and if you want someone to listen, you may email me through YA anytime. God bless you. You are always in His thoughts.
Word of advice. You haven’t seen your dad in years? You show up on a “mission/assignment” and you may not see him again for a very long time either. Listen to “citrine dream”, she makes much sense. DO go for a visit, period. Leave the preaching for another time. The absolute BEST way to “convert” people is to LIVE by your principles, your life IS your preaching. Period. As St. Francis put it, “preach always, use words when necessary”. Hey, he is your dad. Just hang out, catch up with each others lives (without the religious message or you are wasting your time, believe me, nothing drives people AWAY faster than a preachy @sshole, kinfolk or not). If “god” has placed this on your heart, then “god” should have placed on your heart that you preach by “walking the walk”, if that is not enough for instant conversion, relax, you must plant a seed and give it time. If “god” is truly on your side, that seed will grow on its own as long as you don’t try to play browbeating “missionary” on him. Edit: listen to “Sea Turtle” too. If you “ambush” him with your “mission”, he will feel betrayed and you will REALLY lose him. Blessings on your Journey!
It’s hard when you loss a love one. But as christians we believe , we are going you a much happier place. no pain , no tears, So we take comfort in the fact that they will no long suffer or have the hard ship as we do here on earth.
We miss them but we should not be selfish to try to keep the here for ever. as some people keep their loves one hook to a machine even when there is no hope of them getting better.
I have lost countless friends and family over the years and now that they are gone,the only thing I can remember them by is all the good times we had together.
THESE are questions that people have thought about for thousands of years. They are important questions. No matter who we are or where we live, the answers concern each one of us.
If you would like to know the Bible’s view on death, take a look at this article:
if your a Christian,then it means that you already read and understand the bible,most of all is youve receive Jesus as your Lord,savior and God,and you know in your heart that you are now SAVED,
why not make sure also his salvation, that if he die he will go to heaven(and heaven is perfect/no pain,no tears),for in that way when he die then you know that he surely is in heaven,and that way will give you peace in your heart.God bless you.
Reading God’s word always helps. As a hospice volunteer, I would suggest you talk to a counselor at hospice…is he in hospice now?
Mourn and move on,praying or being depressed won’t bring him or her back.Do not dwell on their death,remember the good times.